Stress - does it really have a strangle hold?
Here's a comment I made in reply to one of Emma's recent Live Journal posts. I think it warrants its own post here, because it's something I feel quite strong about. Read her post, then check out what I have to say, and leave some comments.
It's kind of like The Matrix: you're only stressed if you think you are. You've been stress crazy for as long as I can remember (just after Richie got back from his trip last year...), but I really think it's because you want to be. Sadistic? Maybe.
I know uni's hectic, but so is everyone else's life too. Deadlines, long hours, relationships... it goes on. News flash: that's just life! As my dad says, life's not a dress rehearsal.
Walk into any office, bar The Frontier Group's 'cos we know what's really going on, and I guarantee everyone will tell you how hectic life is, and how much stress they're under. Then watch them chat to their collegues, or have a game of solitaire ;)
Sure, things can be hectic, but you have to realize how much control you have over it.
Honestly, can you think when the last time you weren't complaining about being stressed? Is dentistry really for you if it causes so much heartache? Why not do something that isn't going to make you ill, or take some control, and realize that things really aren't that bad, and if they were, then nobody would be doing it.
I expect (know) it's compounded by Mark being away (and what we talked about the other day...) but you've got to put barriers up and try to isolate these things. In the 12 months since I remember talking to you about this, you've not once come and used the spa to chill out. And don't tell me you don't have time.
Kinda like that dream I had about Buffy, just before the series ended. It was when they were building the army of potentials. My dream was actually cooler than the finale I thought, but is was scary how similar the two endings were. Remember, Buffy bestowed some slayer powers on the other girls and they all were slayer-biatchez? Well in my dream it was cooler - the girls just had to "decide" they were slayers, and then they were. I think it really wrapped up the whole growing up, self realization theme that Joss had through the entire series. How does this relate? Deciding is so final. You decide to be successful and achieving success is so much easier. Decide to not be stressed (don't actually worry about the small details, like how you'll achieve this) and you will see that magically, you're fixed. Make the consious (I can't spell) choice and the hard work's done.
Whoa - my new-age, take control ramblings are bigger than the original post ;)
This has been a Matt service announcement, in the interest of healthier, happier friends.
What do you all think? Am I living in Fairy Land, or do people let stress get to them too often? Is stress the whipping-boy of the new milennium?
I agree with Matt - stress is usually just in your head. If you decide to not let something bother you, most of the time it won’t. Granted there are some exceptions to this - sometimes something wears you down no matter how hard you try to ignore it or control it.
For example, looking at dicks all day at work stresses me out, despite over a year of direct exposure to the porn industry. It’s core to my being that I hate to look at naked men. But I do it because it pays well and I need the money for Europe, it’s not something I will ever do after I leave this job in two months.
Stress from incidental things you can usually control, but sometimes something eats away at your soul. If that’s happening, you have to take action against it.
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